I ran groups for men to help them stop abusive behavior for many years. I told the men in my groups that our goal was to stop and always avoid any form of physical abuse. Soon after I began to provide batterer intervention services,… continue reading “I yell at my partner but at least I’m not a batterer.”
The Penn State sexual abuse scandal is a sad testament to how the rules for the game of football sometimes don’t transfer to the Game of Life. Young men are taught in football to follow the rules or they will get penalized while negatively… continue reading Why don’t the Rules of Football transfer to the Game of Life?
Domestic violence is about power. Society that tells men they should be in control, they should have power over the women in their lives. The following is an account of my learning of that lesson…. continue reading First Lessons in Understanding and Treating Domestic Violence
“The majority of men are not actively involved on a daily basis harassing and abusing women,” said Randy Flood, executive director of the Men’s Resource Center of Western Michigan. “However, the majority of men stand around and don’t do anything when it does occur.”… continue reading Abusive Boys Become Abusive Men, Therapist Says
I recently viewed a brilliant movie on racism. Crash presented the many faces of racism through the lens of a kaleidoscope exposing the nuances and variegations. It highlighted the “To Kill a Mockingbird” type of racism. In one scene a white male police officer… continue reading Crashing Views of Domestic Abuse
“Not too many 17-year-old boys would go to their parents and say ‘you’ve got to find me a therapist because I’m abusing my girlfriend,’ ” says Flood, clinical coordinator of the Pine Rest Men’s Program on Domestic Relationships, designed to help men stop abusing the women in their lives… continue reading Abusive Boys Become Abusive Men, Therapist Says
Teens who date experience some form of dating violence — emotional, physical or sexual, at about the same rate of domestic violence among adults… continue reading Love Shouldn’t Hurt: Teen-Agers are Especially Vulnerable to the Cycle of Abuse