Shame – The Core Issue for Many Men

Since starting the Men’s Counseling Center of Northern Michigan, I’ve enjoyed the opportunity to meet and share information with my peers in the community. I recently gave a presentation at the monthly meeting of the Women’s Therapists Network in Petoskey, Michigan. I chose to… continue reading Shame – The Core Issue for Many Men

What it Means to be a “Real” Man

Over our many years of working with clients at the Men’s Resource Center, we have found that just about every man struggles with what it means to be a “real” man. Many have been traumatized by the aggressive process of male socialization common in… continue reading What it Means to be a “Real” Man

“I yell at my partner but at least I’m not a batterer.”

I ran groups for men to help them stop abusive behavior for many years. I told the men in my groups that our goal was to stop and always avoid any form of physical abuse. Soon after I began to provide batterer intervention services,… continue reading “I yell at my partner but at least I’m not a batterer.”

Fear, hurt and shame: Men’s killer feelings and one that’s worst

Paralyzing feelings Like many other therapists, I have concluded that fear, hurt, and shame are three feelings that can be positive, and more often negative, motivators of men’s behavior. As a facilitator who has observed these painful emotions in various men’s groups, and as… continue reading Fear, hurt and shame: Men’s killer feelings and one that’s worst

After the heinous murders in Norway: A plea for a national alliance of men

In the lead article of his consistently excellent magazine, Voice Male, Rob Okun recently decried the recent murders in Norway and wrote of his frustration that the media still does not “connect the dots,” failing to recognize violence is a result of male socialization… continue reading After the heinous murders in Norway: A plea for a national alliance of men