Paralyzing feelings Like many other therapists, I have concluded that fear, hurt, and shame are three feelings that can be positive, and more often negative, motivators of men’s behavior. As a facilitator who has observed these painful emotions in various men’s groups, and as… continue reading Fear, hurt and shame: Men’s killer feelings and one that’s worst
In the lead article of his consistently excellent magazine, Voice Male, Rob Okun recently decried the recent murders in Norway and wrote of his frustration that the media still does not “connect the dots,” failing to recognize violence is a result of male socialization… continue reading After the heinous murders in Norway: A plea for a national alliance of men
Domestic violence is about power. Society that tells men they should be in control, they should have power over the women in their lives. The following is an account of my learning of that lesson…. continue reading First Lessons in Understanding and Treating Domestic Violence