I recently read an excellent article that discussed how men and women respond differently to grief caused by loss. According to the article, most of those who attend grief support groups are women. And, most who seek to discuss their feelings and connect about… continue reading Changing How Men Respond to Grief
Jovan Belcher’s murder of Kasandra Perkins and his subsequent suicide is yet another tragic story of lethal domestic violence; man kills woman then turns gun on himself, only to leave an orphaned infant daughter. How many times are we going to hear about these… continue reading Male Socialization: How it Can Destroy Lives
For many years research has stated that violence toward women is propelled by man’s need for power and control. In Hanna Rosin’s new book, “The End of Men,” she makes the case that men are losing power and significance in a world that requires… continue reading Is the End of Domestic Violence in Sight?
Stopping the cycle of domestic violence isn’t easy. At the Men’s Resource Center, we know this from listening to men in our domestic violence support groups, and individually, as they tell of the hurt they’ve caused to those they love. The good news is… continue reading Stopping the Cycle of Domestic Violence
I ran groups for men to help them stop abusive behavior for many years. I told the men in my groups that our goal was to stop and always avoid any form of physical abuse. Soon after I began to provide batterer intervention services,… continue reading “I yell at my partner but at least I’m not a batterer.”
Sexual acting out made the news recently when United States’ Secret Service men and military personnel were accused of misconduct for their alleged trysts with prostitutes in Cartagena, Columbia. Prostitution is legal in Columbia so this is not a question of legality. According to… continue reading Sexual Acting Out Among the Elite
Helping men deal with grief and loss is particularly challenging. This is, in part, because extensive male socialization and training has taught men that they should bury those emotions, “suck it up,” or otherwise dismiss what they feel. This can cause a man to… continue reading Men’s Support Groups Help with Grief and Loss
The truth about anger management is that most people with anger problems attempt to resolve their anger issues by walking downwind from the problem, rather than turning around to walk into the wind of accountability and change. Of course, it’s much easier to continue… continue reading Anger Management Tips and the Truth
Paralyzing feelings Like many other therapists, I have concluded that fear, hurt, and shame are three feelings that can be positive, and more often negative, motivators of men’s behavior. As a facilitator who has observed these painful emotions in various men’s groups, and as… continue reading Fear, hurt and shame: Men’s killer feelings and one that’s worst
The Penn State sexual abuse scandal is a sad testament as to how the rules for the game of football sometimes don’t transfer to the Game of Life. In football, young men are taught to follow the rules or they will get penalized and… continue reading Why don’t the Rules of Football transfer to the Game of Life?