Shame – The Core Issue for Many Men

Since starting the Men’s Counseling Center of Northern Michigan, I’ve enjoyed the opportunity to meet and share information with my peers in the community. I recently gave a presentation at the monthly meeting of the Women’s Therapists Network in Petoskey, Michigan. I chose to… continue reading Shame – The Core Issue for Many Men

Men, Sports, and the Culture of Masculinity

Who defines what it means to be a man? As boys grow up in our culture, they are bombarded with images and messages about this topic from many different sources: movies, advertisements, parents, and peers, to name just a few. Perhaps one of the… continue reading Men, Sports, and the Culture of Masculinity

What it Means to be a “Real” Man

Over our many years of working with clients at the Men’s Resource Center, we have found that just about every man struggles with what it means to be a “real” man. Many have been traumatized by the aggressive process of male socialization common in… continue reading What it Means to be a “Real” Man

Changing How Men Respond to Grief

I recently read an excellent article that discussed how men and women respond differently to grief caused by loss. According to the article, most of those who attend grief support groups are women. And, most who seek to discuss their feelings and connect about… continue reading Changing How Men Respond to Grief

Male Socialization: How it Can Destroy Lives

Jovan Belcher’s murder of Kasandra Perkins and his subsequent suicide is yet another tragic story of lethal domestic violence; man kills woman then turns gun on himself, only to leave an orphaned infant daughter. How many times are we going to hear about these… continue reading Male Socialization: How it Can Destroy Lives

Anger Management Tips and the Truth

The truth about anger management is that most people with anger problems attempt to resolve their anger issues by walking downwind from the problem, rather than turning around to walk into the wind of accountability and change. Of course, it’s much easier to continue… continue reading Anger Management Tips and the Truth

Fear, hurt and shame: Men’s killer feelings and one that’s worst

Paralyzing feelings Like many other therapists, I have concluded that fear, hurt, and shame are three feelings that can be positive, and more often negative, motivators of men’s behavior. As a facilitator who has observed these painful emotions in various men’s groups, and as… continue reading Fear, hurt and shame: Men’s killer feelings and one that’s worst

Daily Reflections

Some of our men’s groups utilize Hazelden’s book of daily meditations called Touchstones. This is a recovery-oriented book and can apply to men whether they are recovering from alcohol problems, anger and control issues or sexual acting out problems, etc. These readings help ground… continue reading Daily Reflections