Stop Hurting the Woman You Love: Breaking the Cycle of Abusive Behavior is written for you if you’re,
The man who has hurt his partner
Domestic abuse doesn’t always mean physical violence. Maybe it’s name-calling, telling her she’s worthless or a bad mother. Perhaps you find ways to keep her from doing what she wants to do by taking her car keys or cutting up her credit cards. You know what you’re doing isn’t working, but you don’t know what else to do.
You’re not alone. Thousands of other men have struggled with abuse and/or control in their intimate relationships. In fact, you’ve probably asked yourself the same questions: How did it get this bad? Why do I get so angry? Why do I say and do those things? How do I stop acting this way?
The woman who has been hurt
Maybe you want to better understand what your husband or boyfriend is thinking and feeling. Perhaps there are things going on in the relationship that don’t feel right, but is it really abuse? Maybe you see him trying to change – but what is it that really needs changing? Is it just the surface behaviors that are changing, or are his changes more meaningful and lasting?
Friends and family
You see how the couple interacts, and you know it’s not good. You’re worried about their relationship – maybe even her safety. But you haven’t interfered because you’re trying to figure out what’s really going on. Perhaps your frustration with their behaviors has left you struggling with how to be empathic and compassionate. You need more understanding and insight into these abusive patterns so that you can be supportive in productive ways.
Health professionals and clergy
You know that domestic abuse is all too common, but you’re not sure where to begin. Perhaps you have an odd feeling about some of the dynamics a couple is engaged in, but is it really abusive? You know that working on ‘active listening’ and understanding the ‘five love languages’ are not going to be enough for this couple. You realize you’re working with an abusive man, and maybe you shouldn’t even be doing couple counseling.
Why this book?
There are many books available about domestic abuse and violence. This book is different – it speaks directly to the abusive man. Co-authors, Charlie Donaldson and Randy Flood have over 40 years of combined expertise and thousands of hours of therapeutic work in the area of domestic relationships. They’ve helped many men learn to stop hurting the woman they love. Now, with Elaine Eldridge, they’ve compiled their combined knowledge and expertise into this down-to-earth, informative, “how-to” self-help manual.
Stop Hurting the Woman You Love
- Helps you understand the dynamics of domestic abuse; helps you understand how you find yourself being abusive and controlling.
- Offers compassion and understanding so you can face your difficulties head-on, without overwhelming feelings of shame and guilt.
- Gives insight into vicious cycles, patterns, and pitfalls that keep you from moving forward.
- Helps you understand your own personality and experiences so you can see more clearly why you do what you do, and why you feel how you feel.
- Gives step-by-step guides on how to navigate through situations that usually leave you saying or doing something you later regret.
- Gives you insight into what a ‘good’ or ‘healthy’ relationship looks like, and how to get there.
Understand your personality
Anger and domestic abuse are not “one-size-fits-all.” Take the “What Kind of Abusive Man Am I” assessment to better understand yourself and your actions. Learn how your past experiences have brought you to where you are today. Then, utilize this understanding to work toward change and contentment with yourself and your relationships.
Five Lies that Ruin Lives
Stop Hurting the Woman You Love will teach you the five lies that ruin lives and the distorted thinking that leads to these lies. You’ll
- Learn how domestic violence and discord happens when you have distorted or unrealistic thinking about how the world should work
- Understand the misguided choices you make as a result of trying to make the world fit that lie
- Read stories of other men who have struggled with the same beliefs and how they were able to overcome them
- Learn simple, effective tools that are fast-acting alternatives to abusive behavior
Don’t waste another minute suffering through the anger, outbursts, pain, and regret. Buy your copy now or contact the Men’s Resource Center of West Michigan for more information.
For in-person counseling and therapy, contact the Men’s Resource Center about our Domestic Relationships support group and other counseling options.