Shame – The Core Issue for Many Men

Since starting the Men’s Counseling Center of Northern Michigan, I’ve enjoyed the opportunity to meet and share information with my peers in the community. I recently gave a presentation at the monthly meeting of the Women’s Therapists Network in Petoskey, Michigan. I chose to… continue reading Shame – The Core Issue for Many Men

“I yell at my partner but at least I’m not a batterer.”

I ran groups for men to help them stop abusive behavior for many years. I told the men in my groups that our goal was to stop and always avoid any form of physical abuse. Soon after I began to provide batterer intervention services,… continue reading “I yell at my partner but at least I’m not a batterer.”

Men’s Support Groups Help with Grief and Loss

Helping men deal with grief and loss is particularly challenging. This is, in part, because extensive male socialization and training has taught men that they should bury those emotions, “suck it up,” or otherwise dismiss what they feel. This can cause a man to… continue reading Men’s Support Groups Help with Grief and Loss

Fear, hurt and shame: Men’s killer feelings and one that’s worst

Paralyzing feelings Like many other therapists, I have concluded that fear, hurt, and shame are three feelings that can be positive, and more often negative, motivators of men’s behavior. As a facilitator who has observed these painful emotions in various men’s groups, and as… continue reading Fear, hurt and shame: Men’s killer feelings and one that’s worst

Daily Reflections

Some of our men’s groups utilize Hazelden’s book of daily meditations called Touchstones. This is a recovery-oriented book and can apply to men whether they are recovering from alcohol problems, anger and control issues or sexual acting out problems, etc. These readings help ground… continue reading Daily Reflections

Support Groups for Men Provide the Benefits of Being Connected

Asking for Help Men we work with often get hung up on the notion of asking for help. They perceive it is weak or not masculine. They feel fearful about being judged and they anticipate embarrassment or worse humiliation. The image we offer men… continue reading Support Groups for Men Provide the Benefits of Being Connected