The Grand Rapids Press and MLive recently interviewed me and Carla Blinkhorn, CEO of YWCA West Central Michigan for the article Hurt twice: Society questions validity of male sex assault, domestic violence victims. The topic was male socialization and what effect it has on… continue reading Men as Victims of Sexual Assault
As a psychologist, I predominantly help individuals heal and grow, and sprinkle their minds with insights and good maxims for healthy living. Giving the media an interview isn’t topmost on my agenda. But because of my expertise, I am occasionally tapped by media when… continue reading Why I Give Media Interviews
Jovan Belcher’s murder of Kasandra Perkins and his subsequent suicide is yet another tragic story of lethal domestic violence; man kills woman then turns gun on himself, only to leave an orphaned infant daughter. How many times are we going to hear about these… continue reading Male Socialization: How it Can Destroy Lives
For many years research has stated that violence toward women is propelled by man’s need for power and control. In Hanna Rosin’s new book, “The End of Men,” she makes the case that men are losing power and significance in a world that requires… continue reading Is the End of Domestic Violence in Sight?
Stopping the cycle of domestic violence isn’t easy. At the Men’s Resource Center, we know this from listening to men in our domestic violence support groups, and individually, as they tell of the hurt they’ve caused to those they love. The good news is… continue reading Stopping the Cycle of Domestic Violence
I ran groups for men to help them stop abusive behavior for many years. I told the men in my groups that our goal was to stop and always avoid any form of physical abuse. Soon after I began to provide batterer intervention services,… continue reading “I yell at my partner but at least I’m not a batterer.”
The Penn State sexual abuse scandal is a sad testament as to how the rules for the game of football sometimes don’t transfer to the Game of Life. In football, young men are taught to follow the rules or they will get penalized and… continue reading Why don’t the Rules of Football transfer to the Game of Life?
Domestic violence is about power. Society that tells men they should be in control, they should have power over the women in their lives. The following is an account of my learning of that lesson…. continue reading First Lessons in Understanding and Treating Domestic Violence
“The majority of men are not actively involved on a daily basis harassing and abusing women,” said Randy Flood, executive director of the Men’s Resource Center of Western Michigan. “However, the majority of men stand around and don’t do anything when it does occur.”… continue reading Abusive Boys Become Abusive Men, Therapist Says
I recently viewed a brilliant movie on racism. Crash presented the many faces of racism through the lens of a kaleidoscope exposing the nuances and variegations. It highlighted the “To Kill a Mockingbird” type of racism. In one scene a white male police officer… continue reading Crashing Views of Domestic Abuse