• This anonymous self-screening test is meant to help you understand your own personality style relative to your functioning in intimate relationships. It was normed on a sample group of men who were attending a batterer intervention program. For best results, take this assessment if you think you have already engaged in abusive and/or controlling behaviors toward your partner. It will help you recognize your triggers for abusive and controlling behaviors and identify self-management strategies. It is not meant to diagnose, in any way, whether someone is or is not abusive or controlling, the risk of a person engaging in such behavior, or of that person becoming an abusive and/or controlling individual.

    © 2006 by Randy Flood, Charlie Donaldson, Elaine Eldridge. From Stop Hurting the Woman You Love: Breaking the Cycle of Abusive Behavior.


    Below each question, identify to what degree the item describes you. Please respond to each item and answer honestly.

    After submitting the assessment, please refer to the on-screen results for more information about your personality style.


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I Felt Awful

A discussion that started great, about making love, quickly digressed into verbal abuse, fighting, talks of divorce, and physical violence on my part. I had numerous opportunities to flee, take a time out or choose any other avenue but physical violence but I made bad choices and did not control myself. I chose, that night, to react with anger and decided I was going to take control. Once I hit her, I felt awful.

Mark S