I ran groups for men to help them stop abusive behavior for many years. I told the men in my groups that our goal was to stop and always avoid any form of physical abuse. Soon after I began to provide batterer intervention services,… continue reading “I yell at my partner but at least I’m not a batterer.”
Sexual acting out made the news recently when United States’ Secret Service men and military personnel were accused of misconduct for their alleged trysts with prostitutes in Cartagena, Columbia. Prostitution is legal in Columbia so this is not a question of legality. According to… continue reading Sexual Acting Out Among the Elite
Helping men deal with grief and loss is particularly challenging. This is, in part, because extensive male socialization and training has taught men that they should bury those emotions, “suck it up,” or otherwise dismiss what they feel. This can cause a man to… continue reading Men’s Support Groups Help with Grief and Loss
The truth about anger management is that most people with anger problems attempt to resolve their anger issues by walking downwind from the problem, rather than turning around to walk into the wind of accountability and change. Of course, it’s much easier to continue… continue reading Anger Management Tips and the Truth
Paralyzing feelings Like many other therapists, I have concluded that fear, hurt, and shame are three feelings that can be positive, and more often negative, motivators of men’s behavior. As a facilitator who has observed these painful emotions in various men’s groups, and as… continue reading Fear, hurt and shame: Men’s killer feelings and one that’s worst
The Penn State sexual abuse scandal is a sad testament to how the rules for the game of football sometimes don’t transfer to the Game of Life. Young men are taught in football to follow the rules or they will get penalized while negatively… continue reading Why don’t the Rules of Football transfer to the Game of Life?
Some of our men’s groups utilize Hazelden’s book of daily meditations called Touchstones. This is a recovery-oriented book and can apply to men whether they are recovering from alcohol problems, anger and control issues or sexual acting out problems, etc. These readings help ground… continue reading Daily Reflections
In the lead article of his consistently excellent magazine, Voice Male, Rob Okun recently decried the recent murders in Norway and wrote of his frustration that the media still does not “connect the dots,” failing to recognize violence is a result of male socialization… continue reading After the heinous murders in Norway: A plea for a national alliance of men
I have been providing Parenting Coordination (PC) since 1995. I learned of this service at the Association of Family Conciliation Courts (AFCC) Annual Conference in 1994. PC is a service often provided by Psychologists for co-parents in post-divorce situations. Parenting Coordinators provide 3 roles:… continue reading Parenting Coordination with High Conflict Families
Tiger Woods and Anthony Weiner’s public disclosures of treatment for sex addiction may do for sex addiction awareness what OJ Simpson did for awareness of domestic violence. Many men are lost in the cyclone of sex addiction. Sex addiction is insidious and progressive. It… continue reading Tiger Woods and Anthony Weiner’s Treatment for Sex Addiction Awakens a Sleeping Giant