Changing How Men Respond to Grief

I recently read an excellent article that discussed how men and women respond differently to grief caused by loss. According to the article, most of those who attend grief support groups are women. And, most who seek to discuss their feelings and connect about… continue reading Changing How Men Respond to Grief

Male Socialization: How it Can Destroy Lives

Jovan Belcher’s murder of Kasandra Perkins and his subsequent suicide is yet another tragic story of lethal domestic violence; man kills woman then turns gun on himself, only to leave an orphaned infant daughter. How many times are we going to hear about these… continue reading Male Socialization: How it Can Destroy Lives

Is the End of Domestic Violence in Sight?

For many years research has stated that violence toward women is propelled by man’s need for power and control. In Hanna Rosin’s new book, “The End of Men,” she makes the case that men are losing power and significance in a world that requires… continue reading Is the End of Domestic Violence in Sight?

Stopping the Cycle of Domestic Violence

Stopping the cycle of domestic violence isn’t easy. At the Men’s Resource Center, we know this from listening to men in our domestic violence support groups, and individually, as they tell of the hurt they’ve caused to those they love. The good news is… continue reading Stopping the Cycle of Domestic Violence

“I yell at my partner but at least I’m not a batterer.”

I ran groups for men to help them stop abusive behavior for many years. I told the men in my groups that our goal was to stop and always avoid any form of physical abuse. Soon after I began to provide batterer intervention services,… continue reading “I yell at my partner but at least I’m not a batterer.”

Men’s Support Groups Help with Grief and Loss

Helping men deal with grief and loss is particularly challenging. This is, in part, because extensive male socialization and training has taught men that they should bury those emotions, “suck it up,” or otherwise dismiss what they feel. This can cause a man to… continue reading Men’s Support Groups Help with Grief and Loss

Anger Management Tips and the Truth

The truth about anger management is that most people with anger problems attempt to resolve their anger issues by walking downwind from the problem, rather than turning around to walk into the wind of accountability and change. Of course, it’s much easier to continue… continue reading Anger Management Tips and the Truth

Fear, hurt and shame: Men’s killer feelings and one that’s worst

Paralyzing feelings Like many other therapists, I have concluded that fear, hurt, and shame are three feelings that can be positive, and more often negative, motivators of men’s behavior. As a facilitator who has observed these painful emotions in various men’s groups, and as… continue reading Fear, hurt and shame: Men’s killer feelings and one that’s worst