Men can suffer from domestic abuse in many of the same ways as women including physical violence, emotional, verbal, or sexual abuse. It can happen to any man regardless of his age, sexual orientation, social-economic status, culture, or occupation. When it does happen, many men falsely believe that they must keep silent. That a “real man” will just deal with it and not burden others. Perhaps they feel embarrassed, frightened, or think they won’t be believed.

This anonymous self-screening test will help you decide if you might be in an abusive domestic relationship. If you’re a man in an abusive relationship, you don’t have to be alone. You don’t have to be silent. The Men’s Resource Center provides services for victims of domestic violence including Men’s Support Groups and in-person and online counseling.

Created by Randy Flood, 1995.


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It Is My Life

I bought your book Stop Hurting the Woman You Love last Saturday. I could not put it down. I read it in three days. It is my life. I live with a controlling, angry, abusive man. He admitted to me that he needs help with his problem and he doesn’t know why he acts this way. I bought the book so he can read it. I hope it helps our family.