I bring that experience, training, and cultural competence to the Men’s Resource Center of West Michigan where I can help men build healthier, sustainable relationships within their families and communities. My practice continues to be informed by a growing understanding, behavioral health care for young adults, adolescents, child psychiatry, and education. I am foremost a clinician dedicated to helping families restore, create, and maintain healthy relationships.
Problems develop slowly and over time. They become woven into our understanding, values, even the meaning of life itself. Like culture, they hold us with the strength of all of our emotions and feelings towards ourselves and towards others. When our view of ourselves and others become skewered or confused, our connections aren’t nourished. At the Men’s Resource Center, we encounter men who are viewed and socialized in ways that are not conducive to the growth and development of a positive self-image or appreciation of the intrinsic value they bring to human relationships.
In my practice, I meet men and young boys in various circumstances and degrees of discomfort, suffering, and disappointment. In their disillusionment many consider themselves flawed, scared, weak, or disgraced. It is my goal to engage and help them discover a perspective on health, recovery, growth, hope, trust, and stability. Within each session, a process emerges that changes the experience from crisis into growth and change. Men in crisis find stability as they increase understanding of a humane social expectation and a level of personal intimacy that is sustainable and free of stereotypical ideology. This occurs with connection to our true needs, desires, and abilities, and is underscored by the fulfillment of essential roles, relationships, and expectations of living out a masculine identity.
Developing connections in spite of stereotypes and stigma is critical for men of ethnic, racial, social, and religious minority groups. These men need help ferrying beyond socio-cultural barriers to new horizons where they can experience true connection, healing, and growth.
You can learn more about my work with adult men and with young men transitioning to manhood on these segments of the Revealing Men podcast: “Teaching Men to Manage Themselves Rather Than Controlling Others” and “Preparing Young Men for a Successful Transition into Manhood.”