Online Sex and Porn Addiction Counseling and Coaching

It’s estimated that up to 10% of men struggle with a sexual compulsion or addiction. It can manifest in a variety of ways: a fixation with Internet pornography, exhibitionism, promiscuity, obsessive masturbation, visits to adult establishments, or pay for sex encounters. The costs of sex addiction can be as destructive for the addict as for those who love him: divorce, duplicity, disease, shame, anxiety, depression, and escalation of behavior sometimes leading to criminal behavior.

Of course, not every man who uses pornography or visits adult establishments, or who pays for sex encounters is addicted to sex. These behaviors become concerning when they begin to cause negative personal or relationship consequences. For example, a man who hides his occasional use of porn because of moral or religious reasons. Or, a man who has affairs despite his love and care for his partner. Or a man who begins to doubt whether his relationship to sex is a healthy one.

Since our founding in 2000, the Men’s Resource Center of West Michigan has worked with men who are struggling with — or are concerned about — sexually addicted or compulsive behaviors. We have an experienced team and specialized programs to help men move beyond their sexual addiction or problematic behaviors.

Some Warning Signs of Addiction

There are warning signs that an individual’s relationship with sex is becoming an addiction. These include:

• the recurrent failure to resist impulses to engage in sexual behavior such as Internet pornography, affairs, or use of adult establishments when that behavior becomes compulsive, problematic, or destructive. It includes the unsuccessful effort to stop, reduce, or control these behaviors.
• an inordinate amount of time attaining sex, being sexual, or recovering from sexual experiences.
• preoccupation with sexual activity resulting in failure to fulfill occupational, academic, or relational obligations.
• continued engagement in sexual behavior despite social, financial, psychological, and physical problems caused by or exacerbated by the behavior.
• overwhelming feelings of distress, anxiety, restlessness, and irritability if unable to engage in sexual behavior.
• a sense of secretiveness, guilt, and duplicity surrounding the behavior.
• the need to increase the intensity, frequency, number, and risk of sexual behaviors in order to achieve a heightened pleasurable effect.

If you (or others close to you) are concerned about your relationship with sex or behaviors you believe are getting out of control, we invite you to get a professional opinion. Although self-assessment is a good first step, a professional can help you take the next step in the assessment process if you are contemplating whether you have a problem.

You’re Not Alone

At the Men’s Resource Center, we work to help men increase their ability to manage intrusive and obsessive thoughts and overwhelming and compulsive urges so that they can eliminate the addictive process and live their lives more fully. Because we also recognize that living and relating with men who struggle with sex and pornography addiction is unnerving and complicated, we offer education, guidance, coaching, and counseling for partners, children, and other family members of these men.

What sets us apart from most other centers that offer help for sex and pornography issues or addiction is that we offer specialized support groups for sex addiction. The research and our clinical experience strongly suggest that group work is the treatment of choice and the gold standard. Sex addiction support groups have proven to be the most effective in working on accountability, self-management, and shame reduction. In group, men meet other men who are also struggling with addiction. In talking with and listening to one another, they get the support and insight to make positive changes in their life and relationships.

Often what men discover is that sex addiction or compulsive sexual behavior are symptoms of core problems with intimate relationships, emotional intelligence, masculine identities, past trauma, or other psychological issues. Through coaching, and in groups, they learn the discipline of not acting out their problems, while benefiting from the healing and growth of honestly talking about their issues. Doing this work with other men takes courage and strength.

Why Choose Online Help for Sex or Porn Addiction

Our online programs for sex addiction and compulsive behavior may be for you if:

• You can’t access or find a specialized program where you live
• You travel too much to make an in-person program work
• You’re just not sure an in-person program is right for you
• You just want guidance from the comfort and privacy of your home or office

Our online sex and porn addiction program includes both individual and group work with highly-trained professionals specializing in men’s issues, sex addiction, and personal growth. We provide the tools you need to break out of the shame and isolation of addiction.

Randy Flood, co-founder and Director of the Men’s Resource Center has worked with men who struggle with abuse or sex addiction for over two decades. His experience includes clinical work with individual and group counseling as well as providing assessments for sexual addiction and sexual acting out. Flood oversees the sexual addiction and abuse treatment program and provides individual consultation and coaching.

Dan Schmidt is the principle online therapist for sex addiction. He brings years of experience listening to men struggling with sexual addiction and those who struggle with control and abuse issues in their intimate relationships. As an associate counselor and coach, Zach Flood focuses on men and their relationships, especially where those relationships are fractured or broken. Each has specialized training and experience working with men who come in on their own or are referred to the Men’s Resource Center by mental health professionals, faith community leaders, human resource departments, and sometimes, the courts. When warranted, they work collaboratively with referral agents to help men demonstrate successful participation and completion of needed programming.

Al Heystek is the principal therapist for the in-person program. He adds his insight and experience to the team when men find that the in-person option better meets their needs.

Benefits of Online Counseling or Coaching for Sex Addiction

• Convenience
• Privacy
• Highly trained, licensed facilitators
• Interview process before committing to join a group
• HIPAA-compliant Zoom sessions
• Referrals if needed
• May be covered by insurance*

You don’t need to come to our office to get started. Just schedule a half-hour phone/Zoom consultation. You can get your questions answered and decide whether or not this is the program for you.

Whether you receive coaching or counseling, our online programs are tailored to meet your individual circumstances. If you decide to participate in an online program, we will schedule an Individual Intake Process. This involves three hours of reviewing your psychosocial history as well as screening for mental health, substance abuse, or other behavioral health issues. We will orient you to the program philosophy and goals, go over participation guidelines, and sign a contract as well as encourage you to set personal goals.

Based on your individualized intake and recommendations, you will then have the opportunity to participate in one or more of our online coaching or counseling programs for sex addiction. There’s no reason to step outside your door. You will be given an access link and codes for participation in online programming.

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